5 Ideas to Embrace Your Sexy

Life isn’t always fair, with troubling family matters, complicated work schedules and bills to pay, it’s easy to forget to put yourself first. But as the beautiful human you are, you should treat yourself and splurge on items or experiences that make you feel happy and sexy. Whether it’s photo shoots or black lace lingerie, these ideas can help foster new ways to love yourself. Without further ado, here are five ideas to embrace your sexy: 

1. Lingerie 

Lingerie is an excellent way to express yourself!

Whether it’s in the form of a costume, a bra, or a crotchless set, lingerie never stops allowing you to celebrate your beautiful body. Due to lingerie’s fun and flirty style, you can choose to mix up your style whenever you wish too. From a large collection of fabrics, including satin, lace, leather, and fishnet, you can be whoever you want to be.

While some people buy lingerie as a means to impress another individual lingerie should be first loved by the person wearing it. Instead of rocking the outfit only when someone else is in the room, soak up your beauty in the mirror, and have your own kind of fun too! 

2. Cotton Briefs 

Cotton briefs are one of the more unspoken pair of panties. While thongs, cheeky’s, and g-strings are discussed immensely for their likeability to impress your significant other. Cotton briefs are just as sexy and perhaps the queen of the underwear drawer. Whether embossed with lace, covered in a cute pattern or featuring a solid color, they embrace your natural beauty. So don’t hesitate rock those cotton briefs like the goddess you are!

3. Sex Toys  

Sometimes you just need to spice things up.

Sex toys can certainly do the trick. Whether you want a new vibrator or something more sultry like handcuffs or nipple clamps. You can embrace your body to make yourself feel happy and sexy, like never before.

While sex toys can be expensive, there are alternate routes you can take to get more bang for your buck. For example, you can subscribe to a sex toy subscription box. While you might not always receive exactly what you want, each week a fun surprise will arrive at your door!

4. Pole Dance classes

Some may say it’s “oh so scandalous,” but it can make you smile for days. Taking a pole dance class is not only a great way to exercise your muscles, but it’s perfect for letting your seductiveness come out to play.

With energized music, and guided by professionals, you can learn a variety of moves including chair dances, floor moves, and pole tricks. While taking a pole dance class isn’t for everyone, for those interested, it’s certainly a great opportunity to celebrate yourself!

5. Boudoir Photo Shoot   

Okay, this is one activity everyone should try at least once! Filled with body positivity, boudoir photo shoots allow you to showcase yourself in a variety of shots in order to display the beauty of you.

While boudoir photo shoots take time to create, you will be the star of the show. With direction from you, the photo studio styles your hair and makeup. In addition, the studio may also have various sets and props for you to use for your photo shoot.

Due to all of these luxuries, boudoir photo shoots can be expensive; however, they are well worth the cost. The images from the photo shoot will not only be breathtaking, but the entire experience will be one to remember!

Now off you go, lovelies embrace your natural curves! 

Opinion: Don’t Tell Me to Smile

When taking a picture of yourself or someone else there’s a moment, ever slight it maybe but society has taught you to smile and click. Since smiling is often viewed as an expression of happiness, joy, and even openness, it’s been valued highly as a positive expression to make when taking a photograph. Some job sites, dating apps, and even online media sites encourage users to post profile pictures where a person is clearly seen smiling. While other expressions could be taken as serious, overwhelmed, or confused. As any person has, I’ve taken selfies, full-body pictures, and probably pictures that are less flattering than I would like them to be. However, sometimes, I don’t feel like smiling and saying cheese. Not every day is a walk in the park where the birds sing, and the sun shines. Sometimes you just want to be yourself, and that might include smiling less than usual. 

One day, I was feeling adventurous, and I uploaded my pictures onto a dating app as one does in today’s society, but I was astonished at the feedback I received. “Woah why so serious?” one person remarked. Another added, “You should smile more if you did you would get more likes.” But why should I and anyone for that matter feel compelled to smile at all? Smiling is only an expression of enjoyment, delight, and perhaps candor. It doesn’t mean you are cheerful or you’re in a state of glee. It only alludes to the fact that you can have those qualities. But if you showcase yourself free of those expressions and instead smirk into the camera or simply stare the judgment given to you is that of a negative response. 

As the saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” A photo is just that a picture of a time that was happy, made to look happy, or taken to just be taken. Saying phrases like “smile more” or “you should smile” only bring an element of inauthenticity to the scene. If a person wants to smile, he or she will do so. Being aware of the comments you make and their effect on someone else can greatly broaden a person’s perspective. Unlike what society tells you, not everyone feels the need to smile a big grin in a photograph whether it’s for reasons of insecurities, nervousness, or other intentions, and that’s okay. It’s okay to be yourself and showcase your face in any frame from smiling happily to bored and lonely.   

Next time you’re going to take a picture don’t try to force a smile instead let your expressions happen naturally!

Seeking Self-Worth From a Girl who Knows

Have you ever went on a dating app to receive compliments? Have you ever posted a picture just to receive comments on how good you look? How about texted someone you didn’t like to have a conversation? Yeah, I have too… 

My Story

Hello, my name is Hailey, and I’m addicted to attention. 

At first, I didn’t go looking for attention.  As any teenager wanted, I wanted to be loved. But how to find that love was a question I didn’t have an answer for, so I created a dating profile in hopes I would find the prince charming of my dreams. I included a witty bio and added two or three decent photos of me. I didn’t think anything would happen. But in seconds, messages started to appear saying I was gorgeous, beautiful, possibly sent from the heavens. What was I supposed to do with that information?  I believed (at least my adolescent self believed) I wasn’t one bit of what they claimed I to be. I wasn’t pretty, nor was I gorgeous. I didn’t stand out among the rest; I was simply invisible. I wanted to believe what they said merely because it was someone from the opposite sex who could be attracted to me. Thirty conversations later and a slew of compliments, and I began to become confident in my looks. Suddenly I began buying shorter shorts, and dresses that accented my curves because I wanted to be noticed. 

I knew the dating app was not good for my mental health; I mean, how could texting thirteen guys all at once be good for me? But for some reason, I couldn’t get rid of it. I wanted to hear the compliments guys gave me. I wanted to have conversations with other people. I wanted, and wanted but needed more than anything to see that notification light on the top of my phone, blinking away telling me someone out there wanted to talk to me. Knowing that someone wanted to know my favorite color or perhaps my dream job indicting to me that they saw something in me that they wanted to know more about. Whether they were texting five or fifteen other women didn’t matter to me, because at least I was one of them. Finally, somehow in some small way, I mattered to someone, and that’s all I really needed, or so I thought. 

I didn’t see the effects of my attention addiction until guys would no longer compliment me anymore. Soon I would lose interest in the conversation, and guys would stop texting me altogether. My self-esteem soon plummeted and any thought that one day I would find the love of my life did too. No longer did I walk around with the spirit that I was pretty and interesting to talk too. Instead, I found myself crying and in a haze, because no guy wanted to talk to me.  

But with the help of family and friends, I soon realized I had a problem. I had become addicted to the attention guys gave me. Without it, I felt like I was nothing simply a spec of dirt they could stomp on at any moment. But with it, I was someone to be treasured, adored, and loved. I was lost.

My Five Tips

But with the help of these five tips, I’ve come to understand my addiction as they assisted me in coping with my need for attention. If you find yourself looking to others to find your confidence or simply feel the need to text many people at once give some of these ideas a try. 

1. Distract yourself 

There are many ways in which you can distract yourself from wanting attention. There is the conventional way of diving head first into your daily activities which can work for some people. Other people like the distraction of hanging out with friends and watching TV. However, I diverted my attention from boys in a different way. I chose to think positively through a notification stream. Instead of having random conversations, I downloaded apps that allowed me to think positively about myself and the world around me. Apps like daily facts, daily horoscope, and daily quotes allowed me to be notified at random times, thus changing the way I viewed attention. No longer did I need the constant texts since these notifications helped me feel as if I wasn’t alone. For once, I felt like I was in control of who I wanted to be. Perhaps by distracting yourself with apps, you’re interested in it could do the same for you too. 

2. Find value in what you do  

To some degree, I needed those constant reminders that I was pretty because I had nothing else to cling to. I didn’t have a purpose if you will. Finding value in the activities you like and the work you do is an essential part of loving yourself. Learning how to value your talent and recognize that you are needed not only helps with your self-esteem but can make you learn new things about yourself too. 

3. Allow yourself to grow 

You may think you’re attention seeking behavior is who you are at your core as I did. But allow yourself to grow as you explore the other sides of yourself that are positive. If you like to make cakes, then experiment with baking and study baking practices. Allow yourself to have new experiences and even make mistakes once and awhile. Just because you like attention doesn’t mean that’s who you are. 

4. Be honest with yourself  

After a year with minimal attention from guys, I sat down and took a hard look at myself. Did I like who I had become? Was I better off without the attention of guys? The answer was yes. It’s important, to be honest with yourself about what is good and bad for your mental health. Just because something feels good doesn’t mean that it’s good for the right reasons. Be honest with yourself for why you like the feeling of attention or why you like to be without it.   

5. Love who you are    

Even at my highest points, I’ve come to understand that loving myself is a journey. No one can give you the answer or a special code to suddenly spin around and start loving yourself. Instead, sometimes, you need to reflect, forgive, and move forward. Other times you just need to find what you’re looking for whether it be in yourself or in life. Loving yourself takes time. But it’s important to remember to love yourself for the good and the bad: for the mistakes, for the failures, for the triumphs, and the wins. Love yourself for everything you are not just one part of you. 

If you’ve experienced or are experiencing any type of attention-seeking behavior, understand that you are NOT alone.  

10 Activities That Will Make You Smile

Are you having a bad day or even worse a bad week? Or are you just in the mood to smile? Sometimes it’s necessary to take a break from the world and turn that frown upside-down. So, I’ve gathered ten ideas that are foolproof to make you smile and giggle. Do one or do them all just remember it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile!

1. Play with puppies  

Playing with puppies will make you smile from ear to ear! You can volunteer at a local shelter or offer to dog sit for a friend. Playing with puppies will not only help you de-stress from a long week but also provide you with the loving support of man’s best friend.

2. Be a fashionista

It’s time to put away the sweats and put on what makes you glow. Whether it’s a feather dress or a polo tee, wear clothes that express who you are and who you want to be. Wearing clothes that make you feel good will send a smile straight to your face. So have fun with it, mix and match patterns you never have before, try on unique looking shoes, and be you!

3. Play on the swings

It’s always fun to do something from your childhood, and playing on the swings is no different. While it’s a joyful exercise for all ages, it’s one that’s guaranteed to leaving you smiling! No matter if you choose to go alone, or with a friend, or loved one playing on the swings can be an opportunity to laugh about the past and enjoy the present.

4. Listen to your favorite artist

Listening to music is a great way to put a smile on your face. Not only does listening to your favorite artist make you happy, but it also lets you get lost in the music. So clap, dance, make funny faces and snap pictures all to the beat of the songs you love.

5. A good quote  

Reading quotes can help you through a hard time. Since they’re inspirational, sometimes funny, and overall moving they’re more than likely to bring a little happiness to your day. A favorite one of mine is by Randall G Leighton who said, “Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt and dance like no one is watching.

6. Hug a stuffed animal  

Stuffed animals are not only for children but are for the smiles of everyone. Whether your weakness is Olaf’s cuteness or a baby penguin’s cuddly nature hug a stuffed animal for a minute or two and you’ll experience an uncontrollable burst of happiness. So next time you see a stuffed animal in the store, instead of passing it up buy the little creature and give him or her a little cuddle.

7. Eat breakfast in bed  

Eating in bed can greatly improve your day. While it’s practical, it’s also so much fun. You can make cereal and lounge around and watch TV. Or if you want to try something new, why not craft together an omelet or some waffles for a morning of fun. It’s not only relaxing, but it’ll allow you some time to just be you.

8. Take a bubble bath  

Taking a bubble bath is one way to relax from a chaotic day. While it’s rejuvenating bubble’s will make anyone want to smile, it’s also the perfect treat to treat yourself to. There are various types of bubble bath’s that you can choose based on scent, skin type, and ingredients. So jump right in and relax!

9. Watch an old movie

Watching an old movie is not only nostalgic but also is an activity that brings joy to the entire family. Movies like The Breakfast Club, Cinderella, and The Godfather leave you with timeless characters and plots you want more of. Grab some popcorn and click play, and you’ll be smiling in no time.

10. Buy a gift for yourself

Sometimes it feels like we don’t appreciate ourselves as much as we should. So go out there and buy yourself a well-deserved gift. Whether it’s a cute bikini or a foot massager, buy what you have long wanted but never bought. It’s time to spoil yourself, and you might find a little smile peak at your lips.

Now off you go smiling angels have a great week!

10 Ways to Practice Self-Love

Too often we are plagued with busy days and tiring tasks that can leave us burnt out and feeling down. But every once in a while it’s necessary to leave work behind and focus on ourselves. Here are 10 methods to practice self-love:

1. Write encouraging messages/ quotes to yourself

It might sound silly, but it actually works! Writing inspiring messages and or quotes to yourself can make you embrace your inner badass. You can write them on a bathroom mirror, or if you don’t like such a permanent solution, you can always use a sticky note. A phrase I have always loved is “You are enough. You are worthy.”

2. Update your wardrobe

Updating your closet is a great way to shake things up. Not only is your style a great way to express yourself but it can brighten your mood too! Wearing clothes you love, feel confident in, and allow your personality to shine through will make you embrace your beautiful self even more.

3. Get a full night’s rest

If you live on six hours of sleep or less, you might be feeling lethargic, low-spirited, and even unhappy because you’re simply tired. However, getting between eight to nine hours of sleep each night can drastically change your mood and boost your self-confidence. So grab a comfy pillow and snuggle in for the night, it will be worth missing a party or two.

4. Do something you always wanted to do but never have

Life is too short to have not fulfilled your life-long dreams. Take a chance and go for it whether it’s wanting to meet George Clooney, taking an Aerial class, or going on a road trip to Vermont. You’ll not only feel happy about your accomplishment, but you can mark one thing off your bucket list!

5. Relax  

Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing at all. Allow yourself to rest and relax by de-stressing.  Binge watch your favorite show, lounge at the pool, or read your favorite book. You’ll see a difference in your mood after a day away from work.

6. Write a love letter to yourself  

Too often we forget our talents and instead focus on our negative traits. In writing a love letter to yourself, you can look inwards and describe your positive traits, or what you love about yourself physically or mentally. By doing such an exercise, you might learn new things about yourself!

7. Say no   

It’s okay to say no. If you don’t want to do something instead of going along with everyone else stand up for yourself and your opinions and say no. Not only will you embrace yourself but you’ll decide to put your moral values before others. Sometimes it’s important to put yourself first in situations instead of relying on others.

8. Celebrate yourself

Sometimes we get caught up in our daily routine, and we forget to celebrate ourselves. Celebrating in life is essential in order to remember that life is not all terrible. No matter if it’s a job interview, an anniversary, or perhaps meeting your mileage goal for the month it’s important to remember you are worth celebrating!

9. Keep a journal  

Writing your thoughts, hopes, and dreams can be a pretty daunting task however it’s well worth it. Not only will you likely learn about yourself but writing has a way of healing scars, of course not for everybody. But keeping a journal is a way to work through your emotions and to express them as well. Also, depending on what kind of journal you want you might find one with inspiring quotes, fun activities, daily prompts, and cute pictures to fill your writing sessions.

10. Express yourself  

Don’t try to be anyone else just be you. If you love to paint then paint until you can no longer stand. If your dream is to become a director in Hollywood than direct plays, movies, and study your craft. If your happy with the material you are putting out into the world than chances are you’ll be happy with yourself. Express yourself in the ways you love and love will find it’s way to you.

Now, off you go beautiful people have a fantastic day!