5 Thoughts to Think About Before You Cheat

Cheating cripples relationships; it’s a betrayal that hurts deep, and yet many people suffer due to the impulse. Perhaps if more people thought about the act of cheating instead of simply acting on their desires, a person would understand what they want and learn how to find it. Without further ado, here are five thoughts to think about before you cheat:

1. Why do you want to cheat?

Understanding your motivation behind your willingness to cheat can prove fundamental in your love life. Obviously, if your thinking about cheating, you believe something is lacking in the relationship. Being honest with yourself and identifying the underlying issue can help you through such a hard decision. Whether it’s a need for more emotional support, attention, or if you simply want to cheat for revenge. By identifying why you want to cheat, it will not only help you identify what you hope to gain what also pinpoint what’s missing in the relationship.

2. Could the problems be solved in another way besides cheating?

You don’t have to cheat to get what you what. In most cases, the underlying issue can be solved by talking to your partner. While the conversation may be difficult to have, it’s essential if you want to be happy and still be with your significant other. If you’re hesitant about talking to your partner or believe, the issue won’t be solved by one conversation perhaps look into couples therapy.

3. Be ready to give up what you have   

Cheating is a betrayal on many levels. If you want to cheat, you need to be prepared to lose your partner for good. If you’re willing to step out and be with another person, then you need to realize the life you built will no longer be the same. It might sound harsh, but it’s a phrase that rings true. If you’re not ready to lose your partner or the life you’ve so carefully put in place, then think twice before cheating.

4. Realize the ramifications of your actions

Cheating may not only damage your relationship but could also hurt those around you too. If you’re married and have children, cheating can affect the way you’re perceived, which may develop into a strained relationship. While not all relationships are like this, it’s important to think about the consequences of your actions.

5. Understand its effect on the moral compass

Cheating in itself is difficult to handle if you’re not completely sure what you want. But if you cheat, you may experience guilt, emotions of paranoia, and restlessness. Of course, everyone is different, but if you cheat, these emotions may occur, and you need to know how to best deal with them.

Now, you’re probably going to have to sit down and have a real conversation with yourself, but that’s okay. You’re going to be okay.

8 Successful Tips for a Long-Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships can be a scary adventure. As someone who is in a long-distance relationship, I understand how challenging they can be at times, but that doesn’t mean they have to crash and burn. Many long-distance relationships can prosper and grow into healthy lifelong relationships. Here are eight tips to build a successful long-distance relationship I’ve found to be beneficial:

1. Trust your partner

Trust is fundamental in any relationship, but it’s certainly at the core of a long-distance relationship. Since you cannot be with one another on a day to day basis trusting each other to be honest with one another is important. Jealously can overrun a long-distance relationship. Due to the distance, there can be many attractions that pull you away, but if you both trust in the love that pulled you together, you’ll be just fine.

2. Communicate your feelings

Communication can be tricky, especially when your trying to convey your deepest desires and wants in life in thirty phone calls or quick texts. But by being honest with yourself and your partner, you’ll not only gain insight into yourself, but you’ll grow in the relationship too. Also, if your feeling like there’s a lack of communication try planning a day where you two always talk no matter what happens. Even if there’s an impromptu meeting or an exam scheduled there’s at least some texts traded back an forth or a couple of minutes on facetime. Just because life happens doesn’t mean your personal life has to be forgotten about.

3. Plan your next date

Planning dates are essential for long-distance relationships. Due to traveling, work, schooling or other matters most of the time it’s difficult to see one another face to face. But if you plan ahead of time and even more so, if you plan right after a date to have another you can always have a time schedule to see each other. While it might not be for very long, it’s a chance to enjoy each other’s company, and I don’t know about you, but for me, that’s enough.  

4. Do your own thing

Just because you’re in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold for someone else. In fact, instead of concentrating your efforts solely on the relationship you should follow your dreams and go after you wildest aspirations for your future. One of the most amazing benefits of being in a long-distance relationship is the freedom of independency while being loved. You’ll both grow and change from the challenges you face on a daily basis, but due to the support you give one another, you’ll love each other like no other!

5. Do activities you can do together

Sometimes it can feel like your here, and your partner is a thousand miles away, and there’s nothing you can do it about it. While you can’t be in two places at once, you can do some activities together. Whether it’s reading a book, you both like and discussing it afterward, watching a tv show at the same time, playing a video game together, or even playing online trivia. Some activities withstand long-distances and make it fun for both you and your partner.  

6. Have fun long-distance style

Long-distance relationships can take a toll on your sex drive depending on the time period you see one another. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun in other ways. Skype can be a pretty useful tool for late-night chats, and even though it can buffer from time to time, you might find it to be perfect for when you need a little pick me up. If Skype isn’t your thing, there are plenty of other options available for you and your significant other.  

7. Remember the good times

Among the hustle and bustle of work or school, it’s important to remember the good times of the relationship. You may experience bumps along the road as all couples fight from time to time. But looking at the positives instead of the negative aspects of the relationship will give you an optimistic outlook. Remember the reasons why you love one another and the reasons why you want to be together instead of past fights and squabbles. If you focus on your love for one another, then it will be hard to break it apart.   

8. Sit back and enjoy

Too often we analyze or try to pick apart situations in order to better understand them. But with a relationship sometimes it’s best to simply sit back and enjoy one another. Long-distance relationships are no different, while they have a lot of back in forth motion due to the coming and going, however when it works it works. Embrace your independence, enjoy your love, and have fun at least that’s what I plan to do.

Now off you go, you lovebirds may you have a long, and happy relationship!