Cheating cripples relationships; it’s a betrayal that hurts deep, and yet many people suffer due to the impulse. Perhaps if more people thought about the act of cheating instead of simply acting on their desires, a person would understand what they want and learn how to find it. Without further ado, here are five thoughts to think about before you cheat:
1. Why do you want to cheat?
Understanding your motivation behind your willingness to cheat can prove fundamental in your love life. Obviously, if your thinking about cheating, you believe something is lacking in the relationship. Being honest with yourself and identifying the underlying issue can help you through such a hard decision. Whether it’s a need for more emotional support, attention, or if you simply want to cheat for revenge. By identifying why you want to cheat, it will not only help you identify what you hope to gain what also pinpoint what’s missing in the relationship.
2. Could the problems be solved in another way besides cheating?
You don’t have to cheat to get what you what. In most cases, the underlying issue can be solved by talking to your partner. While the conversation may be difficult to have, it’s essential if you want to be happy and still be with your significant other. If you’re hesitant about talking to your partner or believe, the issue won’t be solved by one conversation perhaps look into couples therapy.
3. Be ready to give up what you have
Cheating is a betrayal on many levels. If you want to cheat, you need to be prepared to lose your partner for good. If you’re willing to step out and be with another person, then you need to realize the life you built will no longer be the same. It might sound harsh, but it’s a phrase that rings true. If you’re not ready to lose your partner or the life you’ve so carefully put in place, then think twice before cheating.
4. Realize the ramifications of your actions
Cheating may not only damage your relationship but could also hurt those around you too. If you’re married and have children, cheating can affect the way you’re perceived, which may develop into a strained relationship. While not all relationships are like this, it’s important to think about the consequences of your actions.
5. Understand its effect on the moral compass
Cheating in itself is difficult to handle if you’re not completely sure what you want. But if you cheat, you may experience guilt, emotions of paranoia, and restlessness. Of course, everyone is different, but if you cheat, these emotions may occur, and you need to know how to best deal with them.
Now, you’re probably going to have to sit down and have a real conversation with yourself, but that’s okay. You’re going to be okay.