When taking a picture of yourself or someone else there’s a moment, ever slight it maybe but society has taught you to smile and click. Since smiling is often viewed as an expression of happiness, joy, and even openness, it’s been valued highly as a positive expression to make when taking a photograph. Some job sites, dating apps, and even online media sites encourage users to post profile pictures where a person is clearly seen smiling. While other expressions could be taken as serious, overwhelmed, or confused. As any person has, I’ve taken selfies, full-body pictures, and probably pictures that are less flattering than I would like them to be. However, sometimes, I don’t feel like smiling and saying cheese. Not every day is a walk in the park where the birds sing, and the sun shines. Sometimes you just want to be yourself, and that might include smiling less than usual.
One day, I was feeling adventurous, and I uploaded my pictures onto a dating app as one does in today’s society, but I was astonished at the feedback I received. “Woah why so serious?” one person remarked. Another added, “You should smile more if you did you would get more likes.” But why should I and anyone for that matter feel compelled to smile at all? Smiling is only an expression of enjoyment, delight, and perhaps candor. It doesn’t mean you are cheerful or you’re in a state of glee. It only alludes to the fact that you can have those qualities. But if you showcase yourself free of those expressions and instead smirk into the camera or simply stare the judgment given to you is that of a negative response.
As the saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” A photo is just that a picture of a time that was happy, made to look happy, or taken to just be taken. Saying phrases like “smile more” or “you should smile” only bring an element of inauthenticity to the scene. If a person wants to smile, he or she will do so. Being aware of the comments you make and their effect on someone else can greatly broaden a person’s perspective. Unlike what society tells you, not everyone feels the need to smile a big grin in a photograph whether it’s for reasons of insecurities, nervousness, or other intentions, and that’s okay. It’s okay to be yourself and showcase your face in any frame from smiling happily to bored and lonely.
Next time you’re going to take a picture don’t try to force a smile instead let your expressions happen naturally!
I get it all the time as a female working in traffic control on roads and construction sites. In fact, almost daily I hear ‘cheer up love’ or ‘it may never happen’. I always respond with ‘please don’t tell me how to feel or act, i don’t have to smile for anyone but myself’ and 90% of the time it shuts them up.
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Oh that response is brilliant. Smiling or lack thereof should not forced upon but instead happen naturally. Thank you for reading 🙂
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I hate it when people make comments like that. Sometimes, they don’t realize the extent of the situation. Some people are still happy without smiling. I know for my case in the past, I had bad teeth. I agree about having natural expressions!
Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me
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Excatly, I’ve been insecure for a long time because of a gap in between my teeth. Being natural is a for sure way to be yourself. Thank you for reading.
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I find it’s actually quite a sexist thing. Women are expected to smile, be friendly, soft and even “ladylike”. Do we tell men on dating sites that they should smile? I don’t think it happens as much. So not smiling and showing your true feelings, even if it’s anger, is quite a feminist thing to do!
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Excatly. Women should be encouraged to show their true feelings and not feel pressured to smile all the time. Thanks for reading 🙂
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It’s definitely sexist. I like smiling, and do so often, but if someone TOLD me to smile I’d have a lot to say.
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God I hate the “you should smile more!” comment. It’s so damaging. I hate smiling with my mouth open so never do in photos!
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I know it’s important to just be yourself. Thank you for reading 🙂
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I get this at work, but it’s only because I’m concentrating! However I will say men do find a woman’s smile alluring, just shouldn’t be forced so if you aren’t feeling it don’t do it! X
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I know a person’s expressions should be natural. Thank you for reading. I’m glad you enjoyed it 😊
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I’ve gotten this several times before, too. Usually at jobs. Sorry for being so serious at my job, right?
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Yeah that’s weird. People should be more aware of their comments. Thank you for reading.
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These are great points. I definitely hear that all time whenever someone wants to take a picture! I think it is more authentic if people just have more of a natural expression at that moment. Good post!
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Thank you for reading. I’m glad you enjoyed it 😊
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I hate when people tell me to smile!! Why fake it if that’s not how I’m feeling?! Great post!
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I know that’s how I feel. Thanks for reading I’m glad you enjoyed it 😊
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I get it 100% my husband is always telling me to smile, of course bcuz he said he like my smile and I get it but I don’t think it’s necessary every time you take a picture.
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Yeah sometimes it nice to just be natural. Thank you for reading. I’m glad you enjoyed it 😊
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I totally agree with you! I’m so bad at smiling in photos and I just end up looking like an idiot, cause that kind of posing isn’t natural for me!
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